Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Ceremony: Complete

WARNING: Bridesmaids or anyone invited to this wedding - DO NOT read this post or I will come after you. You will undoubtedly feel immense guilt if you do and the ceremony will be spoiled for you. Be warned!
We met with the officiant this past Saturday for a face-to-face chat about how the ceremony would go. I brought my write up of the sequence, the general wording, readings, etc. Basically, he said it was perfect and we didn't change a thing! Wow, I was flattered. I really just spent some time one night researching/googling example ceremonies and readings. I put together everything I really loved and thought represented Mr. P and I as a couple and also what we wanted to get across through our ceremony.

Even though things turned out really well, this part of wedding planning was a real struggle for me at first. Once I got going, it somehow flowed together, but you know it's always hardest to start and gather thoughts initially.

To help others, here is the structure of our ceremony along with the readings. Let me know what you think!

We are gathered here today to celebrate one of life's greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to cherish the words which shall unite Mr. P and Kiana in marriage.

I would like to take a moment to recognize the family members of Kiana and Mr. P and to thank them for their love, support and devotion, as they grew from adolescence into the two beautiful individuals who stand here before us on this special day. We thank you for teaching them values and showing them the beauty and joy of loving another person.

A good marriage must be created.
In the marriage, the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once each day,
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is having a mutual sense of values and objectives.
It is standing together and facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each person can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is not only marrying the right personIt is being the right partner.

Seek love and never take it for granted. Love is believing, sharing, caring and dreaming together. It is honesty, friendship, companionship, and selflessness. Love is the desire and commitment to be intimate physically, psychologically, and emotionally. It is devotion, celebration, understanding, forgiveness and sacrifice. Love is strong, yet it can be fragile. Love is gentleness, kindness, and patience. It is trusting, protecting, inspiring, and supporting.

Officiant: Introduce Kiana & Mr. P to read their self-written vows
Mr. P: Vows
Kiana: Vows

The wedding ring is an outward sign of an inward commitment. May these rings be to you a constant and loving reminder of the ties that bind you together as husband and wife.

Mr. P, repeat after me:
I give you this ring
as a symbol of my love and devotion.
May its presence on your hand
serve always to remind you
of my love.

Do you take Kiana to be your lawfully wedded wife?
Mr. P: I do.

Kiana, repeat after me:
I give you this ring
as a symbol of my love and devotion.
May its presence on your hand
serve always to remind you
of my love.

Do you take Mr. P to be your lawfully wedded husband?
Kiana: I do.

May the love that you share give you strength
May the life that you share bring you joy
May the dreams that you share bring you hope
May the faith that you share bring you peace
And wherever you are in your journey through life

May your hearts always find their way home

And now having pledged your love and loyalty to each other, I, by the power vested in me, now pronounce you husband and wife. It's my privelege and honor to introduce to you Mr. & Mrs. P and Kiana Last Name. You may kiss the bride!


LauraAnn said...

Wow! Great job!

Jenn said...

Seriously! Well done. We're meeting with our officiant next week and I have no idea what to do! :) This was great guidance.

Tina <3 said...

It is so perfect! i love it. I got a bit teary eyed just reading it.