Thursday, March 5, 2009

Forgotten Task

Little details come up in random conversation that you had previously forgetten about and you think, "shoot, I've got to remember to do that." But today, something randomly crossed my mind that I hadn't thought of before. Well, let me rephrase, I'd thought of this before, just not about executing it.

The name change.
Whoa mama, can't forget that one!

I think it was drilled so far back in my mind, thinking that I had such a long time to take care of it and figure out everything I needed to do for it that it just never came up in my mind again.

I'm not a huge fan of what my name sounds like with Mr. P's last name to be honest, but I'm sure it's just because I'm so used to hearing it with only my last name for over 20 years. And my first name is a little unique so I feel it's harder to match. Although, Kiana McConaughey doesn't sound half bad ;) lol just kidding.

Mr. P seems to think I should keep my last name and make it my middle name, which would be very easy for me because I actually do not have a middle name. But the thought of my last name suddenly becoming my middle name and also never having had a middle name before seems awkward for me. Hyphenating is just not for me. So the only other option would be to go traditional and take on his last name only. I think I am leaning towards this option, but it all feels so final and official. I mean, it's your name - that's a pretty big part of what identifies you as you. What do you guys think? How will you be changing your names?

I also find myself needing some simple info on how to get this done and when (before/after wedding.) How much will it cost and how long will the process take? Does anyone know the best places to go to get the name change done?


Adrienne said...

I am going to take on his name after the wedding, but I agree it sounds so weird to hear my first name with his last. I'm just not used to it I guess.

Check MissnowMrs for changing your name!

r- m val said...

social security is where you'd start to change your name. from there you'll take the paperwork to DMV and the bank etc. you DON'T want to change it before your wedding if you're traveling for your honeymoon. it will take time to get your new ID, new passport etc. most places want your marriage license to process the name change anyway.
i personally think you should move your last name to your middle name. you don't really ever have to use it if you don't want to, but it's a way of hanging on a bit. i had a HORRID maiden name so i was THRILLED to ditch it completely!

E said...

Wow, this is amazing. I never really thought about actually keeping my last name when married, but i began reading a book and it talks alot about how the bride/wife almost looses her idenity when she becomes wed. The book I am reading is really, really good I would suggest it to anyone getting married! It's called "The Conscious Bride" by Sheryl Paul & there is a website too: I haven't really looked over the website but in the book future brides and married wives talk about why they didn't change their last name when they married, or why they did, etc.
hope this is helpful. :)

Hi, Lane said...

I was told by a friend who was married in 2005 that you have to take your marriage license to get your name changed. So, that whole, being on the honeymoon and answering the phone as Mrs. New Last Name is only for the movies. I'll still be Mrs. Old Last Name until at least a week after the big day. :-)

Jenn said...

Oh no, I totally spaced that one out! It's one of those things I haven't gotten to yet. I hope its painless! :)